For those struggling to build deep romantic relationships, try this.

We all want to build deep romantic relationship.

The problem is we tend to focus on the external relationships to bring us happiness and validation. They supplement our happiness but they can’t be the source of it.

We’re looking in the wrong place.

Turn your eyes inward. What areas do you wish you could change the most? What emotional wounds do you have? How has your childhood shaped you to have responses that you don’t like?

Focus on those. Find the source of the reactions or emotions. Make peace with them.

You’ve got to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else.

Everyone is just searching for love. Imagine how much happier you’d be if your source of love was yourself.

After all you can only control yourself.

So why wouldn’t you want your source of love to be internal? Then have the external relationships supplement your love.

This isn’t to say you’ll avoid unhappiness.

You’ll make peace with your emotional wounds and accept yourself for who you are.

Turn the lens inward and start the process of searching.

It takes time but it the most worthwhile investment you can make in yourself.

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